Session: Inner child work, forgiving parents

Dustin: As you breathe down into your lowest energy center, do you feel any dense or heavy energy stuck there? 

Client: yes. I feel resistance to looking at it

Dustin: There is no rush, no pressure. Take a moment to step back, remind yourself that you are safe. Nothing we look at will be too much for you. I am here to guide you through the process. But in order to be free of what is weighing us down and holding us back from living the life we want, we must be willing to look at and resolve our old traumas and wounds.

(A few moments of deep breathing)

Are you ready to look at it?

Client:yes

Dustin: While you look at it, does it have a particular shape or color? 

Client: It's Burgundy, smudgy looking

Dustin: Can you identify any particular émotions, thoughts or memories attached to it? 

Client: I'm 16. My father is forcefully pinning my mother down to the stairs. I'm watching it from another room. I'm scared he's going to do it to me next. (Crying softly)

Dustin: Well done for having the courage to look at it. Remember that you are safe as that is just a memory and it isn't happening anymore. Looking back at that memory now, what could you say to that 16 year old version of yourself to help her feel better? 

Client: I tell her that it's ok, he's not going to hurt her. But it's just so wrong. I don't understand why this is happening. This shouldn't be happening (cries harder).

Dustin: Helping these frozen aspects of ourself to feel better is helpful, but in order to fully understand and see the situation from a place of love and acceptance, we need the help of our whole self. 

(Dustin then guides the client to step back from the memory and journey to the heart, where she can eventually enter into the portal of the heart to be in the realm of her pure, whole, love/light self that remains beyond this world and is never hurt or affected by anything we do or is done to us in the physical.)

Dustin: in order to fully help your 16 year old self, we need to connect her back to the love and light understanding of your higher self. Please ask your higher self to give you something that you can take into your memories to help the frozen parts of you. 

Client: She gives me a scarf, a purple shal that I can wrap around their shoulders. 

(Dustin then guides the client back into the memory with the healing scarf of the higher self.)

Dustin: Now I'd like you to wrap that purple healing scarf around the shoulders of your 16 year old self. Imagine that it fills her with love and light so that she can remember the love she had before coming into this world, and why she chose this difficult environment and circumstances. 

Client: I see it now. I wanted to experience some of what life is like in separation, but it’s so difficult. It can be so hard. 

Dustin: Can you also see that when we are separate from our love and wholeness, we only end up creating more fear, pain and separation, which is exactly what your father is doing? Only hurt people hurt people. When looking at it from the perspective of your higher self, can you find compassion and forgiveness for your father?

Client: Yes, I can forgive him, and now I also feel a desire to help my mother, which I didn’t have before. 

Dustin: That’s wonderful. Now being able to choose love, acceptance and forgiveness, have your 16 year old self go back to your higher self through the love of the purple scarf so that she is no longer separate.